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(I wrote these last night on tumblr in a fit of blargh and am reproducing 'em here because why not XD Also I am kind of ridiculously proud of the Plotty Illidan Smiley that appears within the rant, to wit-- }:D)
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Dec. 19th, 2012 09:36 pmokay seriously
authors?
if you are trying to depict addiction recovery of any kind, you need to look into what 'dry-drunk syndrome' entails. (no, that is not a pejorative term, and anyone who uses it thus is doin it rong. it's a descriptor. bear with me, i'll splain.)
also you need to not present this kind of behaviour as virtuous/good/ideal/healthy.
it's not.
it's not good for the person in recovery and it's not good for their loved ones.
cessation of the actual substance abuse is only the beginning of things, okay?
the behaviours described as dry-drunk syndrome are a sign that someone is not doing the mental homework necessary to recovery. they've stopped drinking alcohol/taking drugs, but they haven't done anything ELSE, whether out of thinking quitting is enough or out of not knowing WTF to do or something else...either way, they've stalled.
so sometimes they act like sanctimonious judgemental holier-than-thou douches, and sometimes they throw huge pity parties that last ages, and sometimes they're snarly and dickish as hell, and sometimes they get into these THOSE WERE THE DAYS~~~~ nostalgia fits that drive everyone around them up a wall tl;dr it's disordered behaviour, it's not healthy, it's not good, it's not a sign of strength of character--and conversely it's not a sign that they are innate magnum douches who fail at life. it's a sign that somebody in recovery has gotten stuck in a rut and is spinning their wheels and needs a boost.
i've heard people say that someone in recovery basically goes through the stages of grief, and from what i've seen--yeah, they do. someone engaging in the disordered behaviours and thinking that get called dry-drunk syndrome are stuck in a rut in some phase or another preceding acceptance.
again, this kind of behaviour doesn't mean someone is a bad person, or a failbox, it just means they're in a rut and prone to driving people around them nuts lol and in need of support/counseling--and it should absolutely not be upheld as ideal or virtuous or healthy, because that's enabling bullshit and i will elbow drop the BALLS off of anybody who proclaims that this behaviour is good for people. kthxbai.
if you're gonna depict addiction recovery do your homework or i will bite your knees off.
this rant brought to you by stupid sheltered ignorant people's depictions of addiction recovery, esp. dealing with WoW characters of various sorts. :P
authors?
if you are trying to depict addiction recovery of any kind, you need to look into what 'dry-drunk syndrome' entails. (no, that is not a pejorative term, and anyone who uses it thus is doin it rong. it's a descriptor. bear with me, i'll splain.)
also you need to not present this kind of behaviour as virtuous/good/ideal/healthy.
it's not.
it's not good for the person in recovery and it's not good for their loved ones.
cessation of the actual substance abuse is only the beginning of things, okay?
the behaviours described as dry-drunk syndrome are a sign that someone is not doing the mental homework necessary to recovery. they've stopped drinking alcohol/taking drugs, but they haven't done anything ELSE, whether out of thinking quitting is enough or out of not knowing WTF to do or something else...either way, they've stalled.
so sometimes they act like sanctimonious judgemental holier-than-thou douches, and sometimes they throw huge pity parties that last ages, and sometimes they're snarly and dickish as hell, and sometimes they get into these THOSE WERE THE DAYS~~~~ nostalgia fits that drive everyone around them up a wall tl;dr it's disordered behaviour, it's not healthy, it's not good, it's not a sign of strength of character--and conversely it's not a sign that they are innate magnum douches who fail at life. it's a sign that somebody in recovery has gotten stuck in a rut and is spinning their wheels and needs a boost.
i've heard people say that someone in recovery basically goes through the stages of grief, and from what i've seen--yeah, they do. someone engaging in the disordered behaviours and thinking that get called dry-drunk syndrome are stuck in a rut in some phase or another preceding acceptance.
again, this kind of behaviour doesn't mean someone is a bad person, or a failbox, it just means they're in a rut and prone to driving people around them nuts lol and in need of support/counseling--and it should absolutely not be upheld as ideal or virtuous or healthy, because that's enabling bullshit and i will elbow drop the BALLS off of anybody who proclaims that this behaviour is good for people. kthxbai.
if you're gonna depict addiction recovery do your homework or i will bite your knees off.
this rant brought to you by stupid sheltered ignorant people's depictions of addiction recovery, esp. dealing with WoW characters of various sorts. :P
WoW: A short-ass rant--
Dec. 9th, 2012 12:33 amThis rant dedicated to a FoaF who tried to tell me that there was a such thing as a benevolent form of colonialism.
Sorry, FoaF, there isn't.
It really doesn't matter how you paint it; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
It doesn't matter if one side is ~being civil~ about it; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
It doesn't matter if the other side's being raging assholes and the first looks much better by comparison; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
There is no such thing as benevolent colonialism. Now, I'm real sorry to be poppin' your bubb--who am I kidding, no I'm not. I like popping this particular bubble, because it's one that's had a direct impact on people I care dearly for.
There's no such thing as benevolent colonialism. Any mindset that supposes you have a right to go in and declare someone else's backyard your own because you said it was and you have a big-ass ego? Is a problem.
( it only gets more tactless from here, folks. )
Sorry, FoaF, there isn't.
It really doesn't matter how you paint it; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
It doesn't matter if one side is ~being civil~ about it; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
It doesn't matter if the other side's being raging assholes and the first looks much better by comparison; colonialist behaviour is shitty.
There is no such thing as benevolent colonialism. Now, I'm real sorry to be poppin' your bubb--who am I kidding, no I'm not. I like popping this particular bubble, because it's one that's had a direct impact on people I care dearly for.
There's no such thing as benevolent colonialism. Any mindset that supposes you have a right to go in and declare someone else's backyard your own because you said it was and you have a big-ass ego? Is a problem.
( it only gets more tactless from here, folks. )
The Archlich gets his rant on
Jan. 7th, 2011 02:49 pm((It seems Toronto's local exclusive contingents of white, yuppie/hipster Christians and Atheists are hypocritically snipe fighting about each others' colonialist bus adverts again and making their respective sides wish they'd stop making everyone else look stupid. I, in my migraine-blurred state, just got annoyed by this latest hissy, but hypocrisy really burns Kel'Thuzad's biscuits so I'll turn the entry over to him. he's funnier than me, and more eloquent. He's also something of a cranky old sod. XD -Y.))
All sentient beings, from what I have personally observed, are inclined to be divided to a greater or lesser degree over ideology (the schism between the Blood Elves and High Elves comes to mind), but I find that humans outpace their compatriots by leaps and bounds when it comes to cultivating animosity based upon these divisions. A disagreement is one thing; an ongoing, obnoxious public two-sided tantrum is quite another, and that is ALL your fight has ever been. I am addressing the 'intellectual' side more than I am the 'faithful', but rest assured: rudeness annoys the life out of me regardless of its source. As well, it is the 'intellectuals' who are demonstrating the most hypocrisy in this present case. Since they currently are the noisier faction, they are the ones I shall address first and foremost.
This does not man I am sparing anyone my ire, mind.
As well, I am critiquing the behaviour, not the beliefs/ideology/what-have-you, of any loud individuals mentioned beyond this point.
( ... )
All sentient beings, from what I have personally observed, are inclined to be divided to a greater or lesser degree over ideology (the schism between the Blood Elves and High Elves comes to mind), but I find that humans outpace their compatriots by leaps and bounds when it comes to cultivating animosity based upon these divisions. A disagreement is one thing; an ongoing, obnoxious public two-sided tantrum is quite another, and that is ALL your fight has ever been. I am addressing the 'intellectual' side more than I am the 'faithful', but rest assured: rudeness annoys the life out of me regardless of its source. As well, it is the 'intellectuals' who are demonstrating the most hypocrisy in this present case. Since they currently are the noisier faction, they are the ones I shall address first and foremost.
This does not man I am sparing anyone my ire, mind.
As well, I am critiquing the behaviour, not the beliefs/ideology/what-have-you, of any loud individuals mentioned beyond this point.
( ... )
what the shiny crap?
May. 13th, 2010 01:41 amI do not understand people who will jump into a conversation about learning disabilities and announce that they don't believe in AD(H)D/Asperger's Syndrome/Dyslexia/massive brain eating chronic anxiety/et cetera/et cetera/and so forth.
Like - my dear Speciallest of Snowflakes? WTF R U DOIN? You're not trolling, you got defensive like dang when we asked you not to troll. So - was there a point to that malarkey besides trying to make yourself feel special and awesome whilst annoying the living schpadoinkle out of us all?
Look, brain-trust, until you are a physician of some sort and until you know what neurochemistry IS, sit down and shut up kthxbai. You are critically undereducated and not interested in getting educated, so you've waived your right to open your beak. It's not hard to find material about this stuff. Learn you some Google and THEN come back and beak at us, or else STFU.
Whether or not you 'believe in' non-neurotypical brain business has zero bearing on our lives. Your skepticism is not making my slackoff serotonin production get better. XD I know that may be news to a solipsist like you but - there you go and there you are. This isn't episode 26 of Evangelion, bud.
You don't sound cynical and worldly, you sound like what you are: a hipster trying frantically to be cool and falling short in a tragic, tragic way.
Either Google you some shit, Speciallest of Snowflakes, or shush while people with manners are talking. It's possible to express an opposing POV without being a little douche-kayak, you know. Indeed other people did that in the very same place and no one et their head because they were respectful.
It's all about the respect, Snowflake. If you moonwalk in here and make a point to backhandedly call people lazy manipulative liars, don't expect them to be cordial.
Like - my dear Speciallest of Snowflakes? WTF R U DOIN? You're not trolling, you got defensive like dang when we asked you not to troll. So - was there a point to that malarkey besides trying to make yourself feel special and awesome whilst annoying the living schpadoinkle out of us all?
Look, brain-trust, until you are a physician of some sort and until you know what neurochemistry IS, sit down and shut up kthxbai. You are critically undereducated and not interested in getting educated, so you've waived your right to open your beak. It's not hard to find material about this stuff. Learn you some Google and THEN come back and beak at us, or else STFU.
Whether or not you 'believe in' non-neurotypical brain business has zero bearing on our lives. Your skepticism is not making my slackoff serotonin production get better. XD I know that may be news to a solipsist like you but - there you go and there you are. This isn't episode 26 of Evangelion, bud.
You don't sound cynical and worldly, you sound like what you are: a hipster trying frantically to be cool and falling short in a tragic, tragic way.
Either Google you some shit, Speciallest of Snowflakes, or shush while people with manners are talking. It's possible to express an opposing POV without being a little douche-kayak, you know. Indeed other people did that in the very same place and no one et their head because they were respectful.
It's all about the respect, Snowflake. If you moonwalk in here and make a point to backhandedly call people lazy manipulative liars, don't expect them to be cordial.
You know...
Jan. 14th, 2010 07:39 pmYes, I DO think I am entitled to be fucking angry with people who call themselves my friends in spite of having fucking verbally abused me and dicked me around OFTEN to bolster their egoes.
I am very sorry that y'all had abusive partners, dudes? But I don't give a FUCK about whatever goddamned rationale you're going to feed me for having done that to me. You think it was SAFE It FUCKING WAS NOT. You've probably never seen me go off hardcore; it's not fucking pretty and I'm not saying that to brag. I am a VILE person hen I'm angry and if you thought you stupid fucking exes were horrible you have never ever seen me tear into people's weak points with rusty shit.
Fuckers, you did not have the right to do that to me. EVER. And you have no idea how badly I want revenge on some of you. NO. FUCKING. IDEA.
You had no right to do that to me. Your fuckhead partners were bastards, but I AM NOT YOUR FUCKHEAD PARTNERS, SO YOU HAD NO FUCKING, FUCKING RIGHT TO TREAT ME THE WAY YOU DID.
I know I'm never going to get an apology from you cowards either.
You're disgusting.
I am very sorry that y'all had abusive partners, dudes? But I don't give a FUCK about whatever goddamned rationale you're going to feed me for having done that to me. You think it was SAFE It FUCKING WAS NOT. You've probably never seen me go off hardcore; it's not fucking pretty and I'm not saying that to brag. I am a VILE person hen I'm angry and if you thought you stupid fucking exes were horrible you have never ever seen me tear into people's weak points with rusty shit.
Fuckers, you did not have the right to do that to me. EVER. And you have no idea how badly I want revenge on some of you. NO. FUCKING. IDEA.
You had no right to do that to me. Your fuckhead partners were bastards, but I AM NOT YOUR FUCKHEAD PARTNERS, SO YOU HAD NO FUCKING, FUCKING RIGHT TO TREAT ME THE WAY YOU DID.
I know I'm never going to get an apology from you cowards either.
You're disgusting.
E-doctors and armchair doctors are the most obnoxious fuckers in the world.
It is none of your business, idiot children, what I do or do not eat.
It is none of your business, idiot children, whether or not I am getting inoculated for something, or why I am getting inoculated for something1.
It is none of your business, idiot children, what medications I take.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not my health problems are 'real'.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not I should be on THIS drug and not THAT one2.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not my condition exists because you've never heard of it, or whether it is more serious than I think because you know ever so much more about the condition than someone who LIVES with it because you read a fucking paragraph somewhere one time.
( more, more, more! )
It is none of your business, idiot children, what I do or do not eat.
It is none of your business, idiot children, whether or not I am getting inoculated for something, or why I am getting inoculated for something1.
It is none of your business, idiot children, what medications I take.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not my health problems are 'real'.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not I should be on THIS drug and not THAT one2.
It is not for you to say, idiot children, whether or not my condition exists because you've never heard of it, or whether it is more serious than I think because you know ever so much more about the condition than someone who LIVES with it because you read a fucking paragraph somewhere one time.
( more, more, more! )
Douche canoe!
Nov. 18th, 2009 09:12 am(I need to snarl at things, so if you don't want to read it, it stop reading after this sentence.)
Know what?
You're the thunderingly stupid fuckaroos who decided that i was nothing more that a tweedly little thingiee who couldn't possibly have talent or a brain. (To the point where some of you cocks DEMANDED MY FUCKING CREDENTIALS IN AN INTERNET DEBATE AND THEN ACCUSED ME OF PUTTING ON AIRS WHEN I GAVE THEM, FOR FUCK'S SAKES, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW THAT MAKES YOU LOOK, good christ choke on a dildo and survive but live mortified afterward.)
It's not my fucking fault you were so content to wrap yourself in delusion for to guard your pweshus pweshus fee fees that the truth DID YOU THOROUGHLY UP THE ANUS WITH A PILE DRIVER AND A CABER.
It's not my fault I am not, and never WAS, what you thought I should be.
Next time don't listen to fucking little fake gurus. You stupid, stupid bastards. You wanted me to stay in the tiny little box you made for me forever?
Well, fuck you hard.
You can go on playing house in your little coffin forever. I'm not wearing the widdle daughter costume for your insecure entitled ass any more.
I am fuckin' out of there.
Fuck you, fuck you, FUCK YOU.
Know what?
You're the thunderingly stupid fuckaroos who decided that i was nothing more that a tweedly little thingiee who couldn't possibly have talent or a brain. (To the point where some of you cocks DEMANDED MY FUCKING CREDENTIALS IN AN INTERNET DEBATE AND THEN ACCUSED ME OF PUTTING ON AIRS WHEN I GAVE THEM, FOR FUCK'S SAKES, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW THAT MAKES YOU LOOK, good christ choke on a dildo and survive but live mortified afterward.)
It's not my fucking fault you were so content to wrap yourself in delusion for to guard your pweshus pweshus fee fees that the truth DID YOU THOROUGHLY UP THE ANUS WITH A PILE DRIVER AND A CABER.
It's not my fault I am not, and never WAS, what you thought I should be.
Next time don't listen to fucking little fake gurus. You stupid, stupid bastards. You wanted me to stay in the tiny little box you made for me forever?
Well, fuck you hard.
You can go on playing house in your little coffin forever. I'm not wearing the widdle daughter costume for your insecure entitled ass any more.
I am fuckin' out of there.
Fuck you, fuck you, FUCK YOU.
