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Unyurrrghhh.
Apr. 27th, 2010 06:31 pmSo one of my friends can be a true dim bulb about gender and sexuality.
It's like - dude. I am bi, you know I am, I told you I have a huge heartmark for another woman. You've seen me and how I dress. It's not 'feminine'. My hair is short. I live in hoodies.
I am neither ideally straight nor ideally girly.
So why the hell, knowing that, would you parrot annoying stereotypes that play into shit that hurts not only me but others?
Like the idea that if Vicky sleeps with a guy other than your dude in the game we're in it's cheating but if she does with another woman it's not.
Like your constant fucking harping on characters who look 'too pretty' and your even more constant fucking harping on how none of your male characters look 'delicate' (I will cry laughing if she honestly doesn't know that word is a dog whistle/unsubtle hint term for an effeminate-therefore-gay guy...and I am not even going to TOUCH that fallacy right now, or get into how masculine and feminine are for the most part arbitrary definitions BECAUSE IF I START THE RAGE WILL NEVER END...)
Like your related fail with regard to female androgyny - so women can be boyish (but never too much so) but guys can't - I just - goddamn. I feel profoundly fetishized by you.
( and on and on... )
It's like - dude. I am bi, you know I am, I told you I have a huge heartmark for another woman. You've seen me and how I dress. It's not 'feminine'. My hair is short. I live in hoodies.
I am neither ideally straight nor ideally girly.
So why the hell, knowing that, would you parrot annoying stereotypes that play into shit that hurts not only me but others?
Like the idea that if Vicky sleeps with a guy other than your dude in the game we're in it's cheating but if she does with another woman it's not.
Like your constant fucking harping on characters who look 'too pretty' and your even more constant fucking harping on how none of your male characters look 'delicate' (I will cry laughing if she honestly doesn't know that word is a dog whistle/unsubtle hint term for an effeminate-therefore-gay guy...and I am not even going to TOUCH that fallacy right now, or get into how masculine and feminine are for the most part arbitrary definitions BECAUSE IF I START THE RAGE WILL NEVER END...)
Like your related fail with regard to female androgyny - so women can be boyish (but never too much so) but guys can't - I just - goddamn. I feel profoundly fetishized by you.
( and on and on... )
